I just had a really great conversation with my friend, Dana. I have known her for uh, forever. I think we became friends in 7th grade. Or 8th- do you remember?? She has had the ability to make me laugh since the day we did meet. Especially through the trials and tribulations of going to an all girls school, meeting boys, singing music and dating, uh, well, uh, ok, just dating.
She has had a banner week. Truly amazing. You can visit her blog to see. D- I am so so excited and happy for you and e-boy!!! And now, sheesh, I will have to call you Dr. That is AMAZING. I am in awe- you are so wonderful. Cannot wait to see what happens in the coming months. : )
Ok, so that said, speaking with her today reminded me of seeing her for our 15th high school reunion a few years ago. We had a blast. But an experience I had there crept to the surface of my mind. I think about it often, and still get a little miffed and a little sad about it.
Going to an all girls school was in most ways a really wonderful experience. I loved the atmosphere, loved my friends, loved not having to worry about boys. But I knew back then, that really, what I wanted to do with my life was be a wife and mom. I toyed with the usual teenage aspirations of being a pediatrician or a Broadway star, but in my heart of hearts, I knew. Fast forward a number of years, and here I am, smack dab in the middle of my dream.
I did go to college, I did get my teaching credential, I did teach for a number of years. And then, I was blessed with the world’s most amazing husband, and later, Jack, Sam and Katie. By the time I attended our 15th reunion, I had Jack and Sammy and was well into my second trimester of my paper pregnancy. So there we were, at a cocktail party, with classmates of mine I was excited to see, talking and laughing and catching up on our lives. There were some teachers there too. So I was standing with Michael and Dana, and a few other women, when one of our old teachers joined in the conversation. She went around the circle of old friends asking about our lives now. Alicia is a film maker who had recently won an Emmy, Amy owned her own company, Kate is a paralegal in a well respected law firm, Dana is all around smart, working in psychology….then Ms. C turns to me…"SO, Jenny, what do you do?" I smiled at her and said, " I am at home raising my boys."
This is no exaggeration, she looked at me, or dare I say, glared at me, and WITHOUT SAYING A WORD, turned and walked away. I looked at Dana, who just started laughing with me and Michael. I was half expecting that reaction and half stunned that she was that rude to me, after fawning all over the other women. Now, thankfully, I am totally secure in my career choice,and know without a shadow of a doubt, that I am in the perfect place. I am in awe that I am able to love and care for this silly, kooky, family. And I am so proud to be a stay at home mom. Perhaps I should have come up with a more witty retort for the question of "So, what do you do?" I could go on for hours about what I do each day, and how so many different jobs are rolled into the title of homemaker. But I know what I do. I know why I do it. And they have names. Michael, Jack, Sammy and Katie Mei. And I am proud.